"People see what they only want to see."
That is the quote that is in my thoughts nowadays. I personally think that this quote is true. Our minds unconciously mold what we see and think into something that is more convenient for us. Something that would not hurt our own mind and ego. It is our protection barrier for our own little world.
Now don't try denying that you are not one of them. It is actually my greatest pet peeve, I must say. People who wouldn't want to admit to theirselves what is lacking, or what they need to improve about theirselves, because it is just easier to not see and ignore. People who does not want anyone's opinion and advice to let them see their own faults and mistakes. But then, at the back of your mind, you very well know the truth. You just can't admit it at that moment because of pride.
I myself, will not try to deny. I also have my stubborn moments but this does not mean that I stop myself from seeing my own faults. My surroundings (people and environment) help me contemplate and enlighten my mind. Seriously, I try to see every moment as a message for improvement. Sometimes I see it fast, and sometimes it takes me time.
That said, It is just how it is for all of us at some point, maybe. We are all mere humans anyway..
I guess some people need more time than others to let theirselves see what they really need to see.. And the secret is to help that person (or just let time help them!) be enlightened without judging the other.
Bow. :p